Pain Educates

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How many times did it take for you to touch something hot before you realized it hurt?

For many of us when it comes to matters of the heart we have to get burned over and over before we realize the importance of being honest and taking our time.

Being honest with yourself as to what you expect from another heart,  what you are willing to do for someone’s heart and what you are willing to put up with from a heart.

As well as being comfortable with the time it may take to learn yourself and  learning another person.

Pain often comes as a shock;  and sometimes we wonder why did we have to experience it? We try our best to avoid it, and we tend to want it to go away as soon as possible.

I’m writing today to merely encourage us to allow ourselves to feel “the pain”, I mean truly feel it and then learn something from it. Learn something that will aid in positive progression as opposed to teaching ourselves not to feel, and therefore no longer allowing ourselves to feel for others.

Instead work to understand that pain and use it as reason to try not to ever cause that pain on anyone else.

In Love,

Jude’                           Encouragement

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“PV Pond Girl” ? : A Cry for help

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Breah McClendon, the 18 yr old freshman at Prairie View A&M recently featured on World Star Hip Hop for dancing nude in a pond.

Took to popular social media site Instagram citing she was a victim of sexual abuse.  “…. I was molested by my dad when I was 11 that was the first time I gave oral sex it wasn’t consensual. The next year he raped me….” McClendon said.

I heard so many people talk about how nasty, trifling, and sad she is. How her attempt to defend herself sharing that she was molested and raped by her father and others was “just an excuse” or “didn’t excuse what she did”.

“I claimed to be a virgin…I didn’t wanna tell people how I lost my virginity at 12…after that I started getting sexually assaulted by people I went to school with…” she wrote.

It is my opinion that the effects of said abuse led to the video that’s now plastered all over the internet.

Excuse? I think not- many may feel that abuse wouldn’t make them personally do what she did.

But as a survivor of years of sexual abuse I am here to say that it could.

In the same manner that any other form of abuse (drug, physical, emotional) effects the mind, therefore one’s actions; sexual abuse effects this young lady and many like her.

This is deeper than the pictures of her performing oral sex, deeper than “twerking” nude. Her mind is re wired, and very damaged. Her hurt is her drug, her desire to please people specifically men is her drug, her sexual confusion is her drug.

And she needs help! Not people throwing stones, who only see the results of an experience she had no control over. In fact she still has no control, she is out of control. She needs someone to let her know that she can take control of herself now.
I personally want to meet and encourage her.
However, If I don’t get the pleasure to I hope she gets the support she needs. I am rooting for her come up and comeback! Not as the “PV Pond Girl” but as Breah McClendon [Insert Extraordinary title here.]

 

In Love,

Jude’